You Matter First

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Tell us one thing you hope people say about you.

Well, well. In my mid-20s and early 30s, I hoped people would say I’m a kind person. However, life experiences led me to not care much about what people think of me. At the end of the day, you can’t please everyone. So, why pay much attention at all?

Furthermore, if you overthink others’ opinions of you and try to satisfy their expectations, you become a strange, mixed character of different views, and you lose your true self. In the end, it’s like manipulating yourself.

It’s you who matters first, your soul’s well-being. If there’s a lack, you can’t interact with other people in a healthy, supportive way for society.

image: Victoria Roubin, Pinterest

6 responses to “You Matter First”

  1. Grace Avatar

    THIS! I found it helpful to write a list of my own personal morals and values to live by. Trying to live in a way to make others think I’m kind has put my own values on the back burner and allowed my boundaries to be stepped all over. And in my last therapy session, I shared some stuff regarding a family member, literally a text exchange, and he was wowed, said I did a great job laying out my boundaries but they were absolutely ignored and trampled on. Having that list of my own morals and values has definitely helped, after all, being kind is different from being perceived as kind.

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    1. papadosshortstories Avatar

      Thank you so much for reading and sharing your experience.

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  2. Willie Torres Jr. Avatar
    Willie Torres Jr.

    Amen. What matters most is being true and kind in Christ. If our hearts reflect His love, that’s what lasts.

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    1. papadosshortstories Avatar

      Exactly, Willie. So it is.😇❤️🙏

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      1. Willie Torres Jr. Avatar
        Willie Torres Jr.

        🙂😇🤗

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  3. utahan15 Avatar

    mirror shows

    what we already

    should know

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